The Long Way Around
What I Learned Coaching 100 First-Time CEOs
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90% of CEO problems are loneliness in disguise
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Ninety percent of the problems first-time CEOs bring me aren't strategy problems. They're loneliness problems wearing a strategy costume.
Opening hook
Ninety percent of CEO problems aren't strategy problems.
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Stop trying to look like a CEO
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The best CEOs I've worked with all have one thing in common: they've stopped trying to look like CEOs.
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The best CEOs all have one thing in common: they've stopped trying to look like CEOs.
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The CEO who asked if she could cry at work
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A CEO once asked me if it was okay to cry at work. I asked her how often she cried at work. She said never. I said that's the problem.
Opening hook
A CEO once asked me if it was okay to cry at work.
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Three questions for every new CEO
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I ask every new CEO three questions: who are you scared of, what are you avoiding, and who knows you're scared. Those three answers tell me everything.
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I ask every new CEO three questions.
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The smallest gap wins
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The founders who survive aren't the smartest. They're the ones who develop the smallest gap between what they think and what they say.
Opening hook
The founders who survive aren't the smartest.
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The trust diagnostic
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I had a CEO tell me his board didn't trust him. I asked him to list five times he'd told the board something hard. He couldn't list one.
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A CEO told me his board didn't trust him. I asked him to list five hard truths he'd told them.
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Find someone two years ahead
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If you're a first-time CEO, the best thing you can do this week is find one peer who is two years ahead of you and pay them whatever they ask for an hour of their time.
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The best thing a first-time CEO can do this week.
- 8Counterintuitiveearly
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Ninety percent of the problems first-time CEOs bring me aren't strategy problems. They're loneliness problems wearing a strategy costume.
- 9Insightmiddle
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The best CEOs I've worked with all have one thing in common: they've stopped trying to look like CEOs.
- 10Storymiddle
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A CEO once asked me if it was okay to cry at work. I asked her how often she cried at work. She said never. I said that's the problem.
- 11Emotionallate
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Every founder I've ever coached has a moment where they realize the company they built is also building them. Most of them are not happy with what's being built.
- 12Actionablemiddle
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I ask every new CEO three questions: who are you scared of, what are you avoiding, and who knows you're scared. Those three answers tell me everything.
- 13Insightlate
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The founders who survive aren't the smartest. They're the ones who develop the smallest gap between what they think and what they say.
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I had a CEO tell me his board didn't trust him. I asked him to list five times he'd told the board something hard. He couldn't list one.
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If you're a first-time CEO, the best thing you can do this week is find one peer who is two years ahead of you and pay them whatever they ask for an hour of their time.
- 16Counterintuitivelate
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The hardest thing I do as a coach is convince a successful CEO that they're actually allowed to be confused.